Love thinks. It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions.
After marriage - the hunt is over, pursuing is done. Sparks of romance slowly burn into grey embers. You drift into focusing on your job, your friends, your problems, your personal desires, yourself. After awhile, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate.
If your thinking doesn't mature enough to constantly include your mate, you catch yourself being surprised rather than being thoughtful.
Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship.
A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing while meaning another.
Too often you become angry and frustrated instead, following the destructive pattern of "ready, shoot, aim" (yes, I typed that right!). You speak harshly now and determine later if you should have said it. But the thoughtful nature of love teaches you to engage your mind before engaging your lips. Love thinks before speaking. It filters words through a grid of truth and kindness.
Great marriages come from great thinking.
TODAY'S DARE
CONTACT YOUR SPOUSE SOMETIME DURING THE BUSINESS OF THE DAY. HAVE NO AGENDA OTHER THAN ASKING HOW HE OR SHE IS DOING AND IF THERE IS ANYTHING YOU COULD DO FOR THEM.
1 comment:
wow.
it all makes sense; good stuff.
was it hard to call "during the business of the day" on a Saturday??? =)
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